I am going to be completely honest: I suck at making choices. Ask my husband. He's asking me all the time where do I want to go, what do I want to eat, what do I want put where? My answer is generally a deflection... "I don't know, where do you want to go?" I tell myself this is because the questions are inconsequential. And ultimately, in reality, they are. Where that chair sits in the house, what I eat for dinner tonight, where we go for a random couple's night out... I'm more a go-with-the-flow kind of girl... it really doesn't make a difference in the grand scheme of things. OR does it?
I tell myself that it is okay to turn over these "small" choices as long as I am ready to make the ones that count. And I have gotten much better in making the weighted choice... like what I want to do with my life and what example I want to set for my kids. But it has come to my attention that perhaps they ALL count. Granted, what I choose to do with my life may matter more than what color we paint the front door; however, it's not about the importance of the choice. It's about learning to make the choices. It's about flexing the choice muscle.
Everything we do or feel is ultimately a choice. Often it is difficult to embrace the bigger, more "consequential" choices. It's a little scarey and there is always some doubt. That's natural. But nothing starts happening until the choice is made and we have committed to it. We must decide what type of life we want to live. We must decide how we want to feel on a daily basis. We must decide these things before we can begin to consciously align our thoughts with the reality we want for ourselves.
And while we are working on that... we must also choose what to eat and where to go and where to put that damn chair. So why not take some baby steps? Start small! Any time you recognize you have the opportunity to choose, make a choice! Never pass it off or turn it over. Each time you make a choice, choosing becomes a bit easier. We begin to recognize how even the small choices can align us with greater opportunities.
I decided where I wanted to go today and I ran into an idea for a speech there. I came home and decided to schedule it. I didn't ask anyone else what they thought about it, and it felt good. I got an idea from a random "inconsequential" outing, I came home, I took the opportunity, I scheduled it, and now it's going to happen! Am I 100% sure of how it is going to go... um... No... but at least it's going! I'd say that's an improvement! And no matter how it goes, I know 100% I will learn from the experience.
The point is, there is ALWAYS a choice. And each choice is your opportunity to shape your own destiny. Any moment can become a life-changing moment if we but decide to use it as such! So make a choice! Even if it's just where you want to go for dinner... make that choice and see what it opens up for you -- likely, there'll be more choices. Make any decision you can, be ready to act on it, and learn whatever you can from it. Be open to recieve whatever comes.
The important thing is to flex that choice muscle. Get more comfortable with decision making and you will find yourself making even bigger choices with more confidence. In every moment we are making decisions that shape our experience. The more you flex that choice muscle, the more aware of your choices you will be and the more opportunities you will find to decide how to create what you want in life! As soon as a choice is acted on, you are changing the course and direction of your life! Whether it's where to go for dinner, or what you plan to work toward... So flex that choice muscle! Notice how empowering it is to recognize that you are making a choice and how you begin to tackle more choices with confidence and ease!